Alpha Asian

Q: "I wanted to inquire you on something: do you think the reason Asian males are suppressed (whether in the dating world or the corporate world) is simply because our cultural values does not match those of western values?  Regardless of whether one culture is better than the other." - J. Z. My Answer:   Cultural dissonance  plays a big part in the suppression of the Asian male in the western world.  You as an Asian male may be operating and behaving one way, but it could out of sync or even completely at odds with the way western society expects you to behave as a man.  This is what Wesley Yang articulated (11 PAGES!) in his Paper Tigers  article. The other factor involved in the suppression of the Asian male is, of course, racism and the fear of a Yellow World .  Some people are fearful of Asian men and don't want us to succeed.  The third factor in the suppression of the Asian male is that a lot of Asian men buy into these limiting...

Thanks to Big WoWo for this one. Check out this candid discussion on love and relationships: Here are some notable quotes from the discussion: At 2:15 Nancy Lee (the girl on the left) says, "About relationships: I don’t have a preference really, but for some reason Asian men don’t really approach me." I'm looking at her going, "REALLY?! You've got to be shitting me?!" But then again, I have heard this complaint from many different Asian women: that Asian men don't approach them. Some of these Asian women then think they're not good enough or don't measure up in some way. At 3:19 Danny Cho says this about making relationships work: "It’s not a chemistry thing for me, it’s a compromise thing. It’s a whether or not I believe in this relationship enough that I’m going to make my sacrifices and be selfless to this person." I think this is very true, and most couples fail to take this into account. The chemistry of a relati...

I received an email from The Asian Playboy asking that I review a podcast of his titled, “Exposing the Myth Behind Why Asian Men Can’t Get White Women.” Well, leave it to this controversial myth to pull me back into the Asian American (AA) blogosphere!  Instead of a podcast review, however, I see this as an opportunity to comment on young Asian male confidence (or lack thereof) in the dating game.  The podcast features JT the Asian Playboy and Will the Better Asian Man , two dating coaches who run boot camps and workshops to help men with their game. They specialize in helping Asian men, but have clientele of various ethnicities.  JT told me that while the title of the podcast says "White Women," in practice, he and his associates encourage their students to date women of various ethnic backgrounds. JT stated that he chose the title to get your attention. Say what you will about Asian pick-up artists (PUA).  I think there are a ...

Just a real quick post here. We've been contacted by the Asian Playboy to share some thoughts about the ABC's of Attraction. I tend not to get into the PUA world stuff, but we thought there were some important lifestyle and self-transformation things that the Asian Playboy is advocating that is worth commenting upon. Since we're getting nearer to the holidays, we've been pretty busy with life outside of the blog, but stay tuned for more.

So I was watching Harold and Kumar Go to White Castle the other night. There's an elevator scene where Harold has approach anxiety . Harold can't think of a thing to say to this beautiful Latina girl in the elevator. In fact he doesn't say anything at all. Many people, regardless of race, will have approach anxiety when they are put on the spot. Women have a hard time empathizing with this, because socially they're not required to make the initial contact. Sure they send the signals, but sending a flirtatious body language cue is much easier than approaching an attractive stranger and gaining their interest. I know 2 guys with 2 very different approaches to women. I've written about guy #1 before . We'll call him Mr. Bohemian, since he lives that type of lifestyle. He is the most unassuming man you will meet, but he is a friendly and passionate person. He likes what he likes and he doesn't care what people think about what he likes. One thing that he ...

Here's a funny look at how Valentine's Day has made its way into China. Thanks to Bitter Sweet Asian for this one.

So I recently did an interview with Will from Better Asian Man . We discussed The Alpha Asian Mindset , and Will had this to say: "James, I just finished your book , and I gotta say that I really enjoyed it. At a couple of points in the book I had to stop to take action, because you drilled it in so many times. Here are the things I put the book down to do while I was reading it: 1. Logged on to my library on-line account to place a hold on Refuse to Choose 2. Create a new Google doc entitled "Alpha Asian 3-5 Method," where I outlined my 5 long term goals, and my 5 tactical goals 3. Open my weight lifting journal and plan out a new new strategy based on your recommendations and principles in Chapter 8 I just got so juiced up by reading your book , that at those points in time I literally said to myself, "I gotta do this right now," and I put your book down, took care of that item and then picked it back up to read some more." Will, has an interes...

Awww, man! I love blondes. Of course, this could be NeoNazi eugenics propaganda. The study is from Germany. SOURCE: BBC The last natural blondes will die out within 200 years, scientists believe. A study by experts in Germany suggests people with blonde hair are an endangered species and will become extinct by 2202. Researchers predict the last truly natural blonde will be born in Finland - the country with the highest proportion of blondes. But they say too few people now carry the gene for blondes to last beyond the next two centuries. The problem is that blonde hair is caused by a recessive gene. In order for a child to have blonde hair, it must have the gene on both sides of the family in the grandparents' generation. Dyed rivals The researchers also believe that so-called bottle blondes may be to blame for the demise of their natural rivals. They suggest that dyed-blondes are more attractive to men who choose them as partners over true blondes. But Jon...

I recently had lunch with a friend, and she related how she had broken up with her boyfriend. She's a very intelligent girl and like anybody fresh from a break-up, she feels confused and somewhat betrayed. The reasons for the break-up didn't seem logical to her. The thing is that intelligence, logic and rationality have NOTHING to do with attraction and maintaining relationships. Both men and women do stupid things when they are possessed by emotions such as passion, sexual tension and longing. There is a widely quoted phrase among PUA circles and that is this: "Attraction is not a choice." You can't help who you're attracted to and when you're attracted to someone, no matter how intelligently and rationally you behave and live your life. This is the reason why some women are attracted to bad boys or make bad choices with regards to their love life. This is why a man risks everything he's earned, including his marriage and his financial a...