Beta Asians
Here's an excerpt from an article by Dr. William Wong on the supposed epidemic of infertility:
Worldwide, the fertility of both men and women is declining but things seem to be worse for the men! In 1960 a good sperm count was considered to be 120 million sperm per milliliter of seminal fluid. Anything lower than that and a man was considered to be only marginally fertile. These days, things have become so bad that a man is considered fertile if he has only 20 million sperm per milliliter of ejaculate! What happened?
Xenoestrogens happened. Since World War II, mankind has filled the world and himself with estrogen like substances. Pesticides, synthetic fertilizers, petrochemical fumes, the esters that plastics give off when heated, and the worst offender of all in the estrogen world – soy. I won't rehash my litany against soy, you'll have to read about it's many ill effects at www.westonaprice.org.
In both men and women high estrogen creates infertility. That's why estrogen is used in birth control pills. The synthetic progesterone used in other birth control pills have been molecularly modified to act like estrogens, which is why instead of increasing fertility the way real (natural) progesterone does the prescription drug, progesterone, decreases fertility and if used during pregnancy can create birth defects and mutation.
In men, estrogen decreases testosterone levels and sperm count! Read on the websites cited, about what happened to the rabbit industry in New Zealand where the bunnies were fed soy feed. They stopped reproducing and the industry crashed. How can anything stop a rabbit, from reproducing?! Isoflavones (estrogen) can.
Before you bright light vegetarians out there tell me that Asians eat mainly soy and have great birthrates, the eating soy part is not true among those with high birth rates! The average Chinese eats 5 to 15 ml (one to three TEASPOONS) of soy products daily mainly in soy sauce. It is widely known throughout Asia that when a woman does not want to have sexual relations with her husband any more, she feeds him more and more tofu!
Monks in monasteries needing to be celibate are urged to eat more tofu and soy products. In Asia, it is common knowledge that soy reduces sexual urge and ability. The propaganda and contrived studies showing that soy is such a fantastic food arises from the huge agribusiness firms that grow most of the world’s soybeans, Monsanto and Archer Daniel Midland.
Compare China with its relatively low soy consumption and high birth rate with Japan and its considerably higher soy consumption and their low birth rate. Japanese fertility has dropped so precipitously that the number of in vitro fertilizations has skyrocketed topping 100,000! Of the 100,189 in vitro births in Japan, 55,688 were normal in vitro fertilizations, 13,316 involved use of frozen pre-fertilized eggs and 31,185 fertilizations were done with the micro fertilization technique where sperm from a relatively infertile man with inactive sperm is injected into the egg using a microscopic needle.
The Herbivore Dilemma
While we're on the topic of Japanese men, here's another article in a long line of articles on Japan's supposed phenomenon of Grass Eating Boys:
Shigeru Sakai of Media Shakers suggests that grass-eating men don't pursue women, because they are bad at expressing themselves. He attributes their poor communication skills to the fact that many grew up without siblings in households where both parents worked.
"Because they had TVs, stereos and game consoles in their bedrooms, it became more common for them to shut themselves in their rooms when they got home and communicate less with their families, which left them with poor communication skills," he wrote in an e-mail.
Japan has rarely needed its men to have sex as much as it does now. Low birth rates, combined with a lack of immigration, have caused the country's population to shrink every year since 2005.
It's important to take these articles with a grain of salt. Believe me, sometimes I come home from a hard day at work, and I just want to curl up on the couch with my cat, eat a pint of Ben and Jerry's, watch Oprah with the wife and talk about our feelings.
OK, I take that back. I don't watch Oprah.
Nevertheless, I find it disturbing there are generations of males who have no aspirations, sexual or otherwise. When you cocoon yourself from the outside world, then you don't develop any life experience. And when you don't develop any life experiences, then you don't learn anything and you don't develop confidence and emotional resiliency.
Which is why I think some guys feel the need to attend PUA bootcamps. These guys lack the life experience to deal confidently and comfortably with women. So they pay big money to go through artificially induced experiences aimed at teaching them a very specific skill set (attracting women and sleeping with them).
A lot of people knock the idea of using canned material to pick up women, but it's analogous to performing katas in martial arts. Doing a kata doesn't mean you know how to fight. It's just a way to teach you how to do strikes in good form and to do it repeatedly. After enough repetition in the katas and with enough sparring, you will eventually learn to improvise and truly fight.
PUA routines give the guy a false sense of confidence, because he doesn't have a foundation of true life experiences. There is a reason why some women are attracted to older men. Older men tend to be more confident, because
1) they have more life experiences and
2) they're more comfortable with who they are and what they want.
But if a PUA bootcamp is what helps you fake it until you make it, then I say more power to you. From what I can see, most guys eventually find mates. And yes that includes grass-eating Asian guys with low sperm counts. I’ve known guys who lived at home and were unemployed, and yet they were still dating lots of women. Dorky nerds hook up and get married. Short guys get dates and get married. Ugly guys get married.
People find relationships DESPITE their shortcomings. You just got to play up your strengths. I once watched a documentary on some birds. They showed a scene where two male birds were battling each other to see who would win the affections of a female. One male was protecting his woman, the other was challenging. While they were battling it out, another male sneaks up behind the female watching the fight and starts doing her. So as you can see, there's no one way to succeed in life and love.
Let's take a look at Asian American men on TV. With regards to the Asian American male image on TV, we're doing pretty good for the moment. We've got at least one Asian American male character on each of the 3 major networks. On NBC's Heroes, we have Masi Oka playing Hiro Nakamura. On CBS we have Daniel Henney playing a doctor on Three Rivers. And on ABC we have John Cho playing FBI special agent Demetri Noh on Flashforward.
Three very different actors, each successful in their own way. Daniel Henney has the classic good looks. He could trip and sprain his ankle out in the street, and a mob of women would form around him in 20 seconds to make sure he was OK.
Masi Oka's character Hiro is the stereotypical Asian nerd, but what Masi Oka did to make Hiro such a popular character was that he subverted the stereotype. He took the stereotype and made it three dimensional by making Hiro kind, good-natured and someone you would root for to win. Hiro has an earnest quality that makes him extremely likeable. It should be noted Hiro has a romantic interest on the show, whereas Daniel Henney's character on Three Rivers does not (yet).
Of the 3 Asian American characters on prime time, John Cho's character Demetri is the most intriguing. Demetri is far more three dimensional and interesting than Joseph Fiennes' pained and brooding character. John Cho doesn't have the classic good looks of Daniel Henney: he's skinny and his ears are too big. But he's proven to be our biggest Asian American actor in recent years.
Bottom line: Everybody finds their own path to success.
Worldwide, the fertility of both men and women is declining but things seem to be worse for the men! In 1960 a good sperm count was considered to be 120 million sperm per milliliter of seminal fluid. Anything lower than that and a man was considered to be only marginally fertile. These days, things have become so bad that a man is considered fertile if he has only 20 million sperm per milliliter of ejaculate! What happened?
Xenoestrogens happened. Since World War II, mankind has filled the world and himself with estrogen like substances. Pesticides, synthetic fertilizers, petrochemical fumes, the esters that plastics give off when heated, and the worst offender of all in the estrogen world – soy. I won't rehash my litany against soy, you'll have to read about it's many ill effects at www.westonaprice.org.
In both men and women high estrogen creates infertility. That's why estrogen is used in birth control pills. The synthetic progesterone used in other birth control pills have been molecularly modified to act like estrogens, which is why instead of increasing fertility the way real (natural) progesterone does the prescription drug, progesterone, decreases fertility and if used during pregnancy can create birth defects and mutation.
In men, estrogen decreases testosterone levels and sperm count! Read on the websites cited, about what happened to the rabbit industry in New Zealand where the bunnies were fed soy feed. They stopped reproducing and the industry crashed. How can anything stop a rabbit, from reproducing?! Isoflavones (estrogen) can.
Before you bright light vegetarians out there tell me that Asians eat mainly soy and have great birthrates, the eating soy part is not true among those with high birth rates! The average Chinese eats 5 to 15 ml (one to three TEASPOONS) of soy products daily mainly in soy sauce. It is widely known throughout Asia that when a woman does not want to have sexual relations with her husband any more, she feeds him more and more tofu!
Monks in monasteries needing to be celibate are urged to eat more tofu and soy products. In Asia, it is common knowledge that soy reduces sexual urge and ability. The propaganda and contrived studies showing that soy is such a fantastic food arises from the huge agribusiness firms that grow most of the world’s soybeans, Monsanto and Archer Daniel Midland.
Compare China with its relatively low soy consumption and high birth rate with Japan and its considerably higher soy consumption and their low birth rate. Japanese fertility has dropped so precipitously that the number of in vitro fertilizations has skyrocketed topping 100,000! Of the 100,189 in vitro births in Japan, 55,688 were normal in vitro fertilizations, 13,316 involved use of frozen pre-fertilized eggs and 31,185 fertilizations were done with the micro fertilization technique where sperm from a relatively infertile man with inactive sperm is injected into the egg using a microscopic needle.
The Herbivore Dilemma
While we're on the topic of Japanese men, here's another article in a long line of articles on Japan's supposed phenomenon of Grass Eating Boys:
Shigeru Sakai of Media Shakers suggests that grass-eating men don't pursue women, because they are bad at expressing themselves. He attributes their poor communication skills to the fact that many grew up without siblings in households where both parents worked.
"Because they had TVs, stereos and game consoles in their bedrooms, it became more common for them to shut themselves in their rooms when they got home and communicate less with their families, which left them with poor communication skills," he wrote in an e-mail.
Japan has rarely needed its men to have sex as much as it does now. Low birth rates, combined with a lack of immigration, have caused the country's population to shrink every year since 2005.
It's important to take these articles with a grain of salt. Believe me, sometimes I come home from a hard day at work, and I just want to curl up on the couch with my cat, eat a pint of Ben and Jerry's, watch Oprah with the wife and talk about our feelings.
OK, I take that back. I don't watch Oprah.
Nevertheless, I find it disturbing there are generations of males who have no aspirations, sexual or otherwise. When you cocoon yourself from the outside world, then you don't develop any life experience. And when you don't develop any life experiences, then you don't learn anything and you don't develop confidence and emotional resiliency.
Which is why I think some guys feel the need to attend PUA bootcamps. These guys lack the life experience to deal confidently and comfortably with women. So they pay big money to go through artificially induced experiences aimed at teaching them a very specific skill set (attracting women and sleeping with them).
A lot of people knock the idea of using canned material to pick up women, but it's analogous to performing katas in martial arts. Doing a kata doesn't mean you know how to fight. It's just a way to teach you how to do strikes in good form and to do it repeatedly. After enough repetition in the katas and with enough sparring, you will eventually learn to improvise and truly fight.
PUA routines give the guy a false sense of confidence, because he doesn't have a foundation of true life experiences. There is a reason why some women are attracted to older men. Older men tend to be more confident, because
1) they have more life experiences and
2) they're more comfortable with who they are and what they want.
But if a PUA bootcamp is what helps you fake it until you make it, then I say more power to you. From what I can see, most guys eventually find mates. And yes that includes grass-eating Asian guys with low sperm counts. I’ve known guys who lived at home and were unemployed, and yet they were still dating lots of women. Dorky nerds hook up and get married. Short guys get dates and get married. Ugly guys get married.
People find relationships DESPITE their shortcomings. You just got to play up your strengths. I once watched a documentary on some birds. They showed a scene where two male birds were battling each other to see who would win the affections of a female. One male was protecting his woman, the other was challenging. While they were battling it out, another male sneaks up behind the female watching the fight and starts doing her. So as you can see, there's no one way to succeed in life and love.
Let's take a look at Asian American men on TV. With regards to the Asian American male image on TV, we're doing pretty good for the moment. We've got at least one Asian American male character on each of the 3 major networks. On NBC's Heroes, we have Masi Oka playing Hiro Nakamura. On CBS we have Daniel Henney playing a doctor on Three Rivers. And on ABC we have John Cho playing FBI special agent Demetri Noh on Flashforward.
Three very different actors, each successful in their own way. Daniel Henney has the classic good looks. He could trip and sprain his ankle out in the street, and a mob of women would form around him in 20 seconds to make sure he was OK.
Masi Oka's character Hiro is the stereotypical Asian nerd, but what Masi Oka did to make Hiro such a popular character was that he subverted the stereotype. He took the stereotype and made it three dimensional by making Hiro kind, good-natured and someone you would root for to win. Hiro has an earnest quality that makes him extremely likeable. It should be noted Hiro has a romantic interest on the show, whereas Daniel Henney's character on Three Rivers does not (yet).
Of the 3 Asian American characters on prime time, John Cho's character Demetri is the most intriguing. Demetri is far more three dimensional and interesting than Joseph Fiennes' pained and brooding character. John Cho doesn't have the classic good looks of Daniel Henney: he's skinny and his ears are too big. But he's proven to be our biggest Asian American actor in recent years.
Bottom line: Everybody finds their own path to success.
Comments
Hah! It's funny you say that because there are several ladies in my office (across a range of ages and races, fwiw) who think "Harold" is HAWT.
And your description of "skinny, with big ears" just made it click for me - he's a little bit like Clark Gable, who was a really bizarre-looking guy when you break it down, but had so much personality and charm he made it work. Cho is way better looking than Gable was, but don't underestimate the power of a good personality.
Evolutionists refer to that as an "extra pair copulation," meaning that someone outside the "pair" sneaked in the backdoor. I almost blogged about this in my Talent post (remember the post about the guy who didn't use his talent?) because even if this mating strategy works, it's less honorable--and evolutionists do in fact refer to it as "beta strategy." Because there's an underhanded nature to this survival mechanism, it's considered wimpier and dirtier.
So even though it succeeds towards the same end, and even though the consequence is the same, the quality is not quite as good.
Agree? Disagree?
People may disagree with me on this, but I think it's more honorable to lose as an alpha than to win as a beta. There's just something so...not right...about beta strategies.
yes, B, great minds do think alike. I can't count how many times I was going blog about something and you beat me to the punch!
with regards to Beta strategies, if you look at it from a Darwinian standpoint, they're very effective. why would women go out and marry predominantly beta males? There are other unconscious factors involved in the minds of women when it comes to attraction and matel selection.
which is why they confuse the sh!t out of us!
are some of Beta strategies sneaky and underhanded? Yep. But deviousness and deception are survival/replication traits in and of themselves.
And your description of "skinny, with big ears" just made it click for me - he's a little bit like Clark Gable, who was a really bizarre-looking guy when you break it down, but had so much personality and charm he made it work. Cho is way better looking than Gable was, but don't underestimate the power of a good personality.
Most definitely. An average looking guy with a great personality is far more attractive to women than a supermodel dude with zero personality. there's something about John Cho that makes him more interesting than Daniel henney.
Interesting stuff on instincts, but I try not to take TOO much stock from the animal world. The big difference here is that we, as humans, have the capacity for higher consciousness. yes, we have those same animal instincts but it's also tempered with the ability for thought, for having a conscience.
As stated, one must play to one's strengths. Not every is alpha. I certainly don't think I fit into that classical mode, but rather probably have a few alpha traits or mindsets within me. First and foremost, one must be totally honest about one's self. You have to know who you are and what you're not; you can lie to others and put up facades, but you cannot lie to yourself. Just work on your weaknesses as best as you can. Dovetails into what you wrote about older guys having more confidence and experiences cuz they're content with who they are and they know themselves.
Are there lots of Asian males disengaging from life as you suggest? Generations? I honestly don't know because I don't see it where I am. If this is true, then it is quite sad that a lot of guys are letting life pass them by. I would hope they get off the couch, get off the computer, stop playing X-box or Playstation stuff and get involved in something where they can gain some life experiences, like you said.
It IS encouraging to see more AA males on the major networks now. Ken Leung, Daniel Dae Kim, Naveen Andrews (all from ABC's Lost), to some lesser extent Ken Jeong, Aziz Ansari. But again, that's just for the moment, as you noted. I would hope you'd get more enlightened producers who are willing to continue having a diverse cast to include more AA males.
Alpha normally implies a winner take all STATUS. But what I'd like to promote, which you state perfectly Mojo, is that everybody can have Alpha TRAITS.
Are there lots of Asian males disengaging from life as you suggest? Generations? I honestly don't know because I don't see it where I am. If this is true, then it is quite sad that a lot of guys are letting life pass them by. I would hope they get off the couch, get off the computer, stop playing X-box or Playstation stuff and get involved in something where they can gain some life experiences, like you said.
Get off the computer?! No they need to come to this blog and give me lots of page views and comments. it's all about me! Me! Me! Me!
It IS encouraging to see more AA males on the major networks now. Ken Leung, Daniel Dae Kim, Naveen Andrews (all from ABC's Lost), to some lesser extent Ken Jeong, Aziz Ansari. But again, that's just for the moment, as you noted. I would hope you'd get more enlightened producers who are willing to continue having a diverse cast to include more AA males.
You know progress is never linear. If you lived during the time of Anna May Wong and Sessue Hayakawa, then you would thought Asians would make an even bigger impact in Hollywood in the latter half of the 20th century.
There were always blips of progress in cinematic history: The Crimson Kimono (1959), Flower Drum Song (1961), Bruce Lee (1972), Vanishing Son* (1994), Better Luck Tomorrow (2002), Harold and Kumar (2004).
Every time one of these movies appeared, it looked like, "Yeah, things are getting better! We're on the road to full representation for the Asian American male!"
But representation always comes in spurts, and we've never been to reach a point of critical mass. I'm hoping that now with all the Asian guys in movies and TV that we'll gain some traction.
You should have more posts about this. In your movie selections, I'd throw in "The Lover" as well. No?
The virtual culture that you mentioned and was expounded on by Mojo is something you see very prominent in Japanese culture today. It is very real and I wish I could drag some of these guys out of the their rooms or the arcades and take them to a social event or a bar with real women.
But as I look back 9 years ago and compare it to the last time I went in the summer, I think I see more couples in the streets of Tokyo holding hands. So there must be some kind of progress going on.
B,
Agreed on losing as an alpha rather than being a sneaky beta.
You know as much as I like soft core porn between an Asian guy and a model (Jane March), I found it way too depressing. Probably because it hit so close to home for a lot of Asian guys. Tony Leung's character was kind of a pathetic doormat who used the Beta approach to bagging this chick. His character had looks and wealth, but lacked self-confidence, so she exploited the crap out of him while he was exploiting the crap out of her.
Still an intriguing film, however. people say the book is better, but everybody who's told me that has been a woman.
B,
Agreed on losing as an alpha rather than being a sneaky beta.
Sometimes you got to switch it up depending on the situation. Like they say, "If you don't cheat, then you didn't try hard enough."
And John Cho reminds me of Jimmy Stewart even down to the ears and lanky build.
Sarah Shahi is her name. Don't know if they're going out or married (I see a ring on her finger).
That is tragic. It reminds me of things like Second Life, an online virtual world where people basically create an entirely different reality to live in.
http://secondlife.com/
It's pure escapism from the real world and real life where people assume an idealized identity (called avatars) that they wish they were in reality.
Welcome to our brave new world.
It's pure escapism from the real world and real life where people assume an idealized identity (called avatars) that they wish they were in reality.
If they come with a virtual reality Internet world, then I think a lot of us would plug in and cocoon ourselves from the real world. Kind of like a benevolent version of the Matrix. Hell, you could create your own virtual universes and live however you want.
I can live as a movie star with super powers? Sign me up!
Speaking of virtual worlds, you can live in traditional China in the Sims video game
This is one reason it has been suggested why Asian men have fewer incidences of prostate cancer. Estrogen is a carcinogenic agent for the prostate.