Alpha Asian

I remember back in middle school and high school, whenever I had approach anxiety with girls, my friends ( especially the girls) would always give me the same advice: Be yourself. I don't know about you guys, but when you're a thirteen year old kid, probably one of the last things you know about is to be yourself. In my junior year of high school one of my final projects was to figure out a "career" for yourself. One of the requirements in that final was to take the MBTI test . I thought that this was such a great description of myself and as a really depressed Asian kid, I took to this like white on rice. I hear this is how cults recruit new members. I joined a now defunct forum for my specific personality type . I had a great time talking to like-minded people online and even met one of them in real life that I'm still friends with to this day. During that time, I honestly thought I was "figuring myself out". But after the the initial giddines...

We love seeing Asians making progressive strides in society. It gives us a warm feeling when we see an Asian dude and can think to ourselves, "That right there...is a Perfect Asian Dude". Unfortunately, this is few and far between. So we wrote up a list of our current Asian dude pet peeves. Without further adieu, here is our list of 10 Things Asian Dudes Need To Stop Doing Right Now! 1. Being an Armani Exchange hoarder. It's our firm belief that a dude should never spend more money on clothing than their sisters. It's not a crime to wear colors other than black and a billion shades of grey. A similar case can also be made for Abercrombie and Hollister hoarders. 2. Executing the "Chin Up Stare Down" picture pose. Step One : Throw up gang signs. Step Two : Tilt chin up and stare down. Step Three : Make sure not to smile. Step Four : End up on a blog with the ridiculous ass photo you've just created. The pink tie obviously represents ...

"It was a blessing in disguise..." I'm sure you've used this to describe a setback in your life. As if it was fate that your girlfriend broke up with you or fate that caused you to get fired from your job all so that better things could fall into place. I use this phrase all the time to describe when things don't exactly play out as planned. Though I may use it, I hate what it assumes. It assumes I had no role in how the scenario turned out. It implies that this mysterious force called "fate" is the one to blame or thank. What if I told you that you can turn every bad situation into a blessing in disguise? I know it's hard to believe but you can create these miracles at will . If it's so easy why don't more people do it? It's because everyone likes being the victim and this leads to the first step in turning your setback into a little blessing.. Stop acting like a victim. I can be your hero baaaaby

The other weekend, I ran into a woman who worked for the Illinois State Police in the human resources department. She told me that she had gotten her doctorate in psychology and since I have some interest in it, albeit from a more spiritual bent, we had a nice talk about Jungian archetypes, personality types, self-understanding and self-knowledge.  One thing we agreed upon, since we're both in public service, is that the the bureaucracy is broken and that how we deal with it is dependent upon understanding who we are dealing with. In addition, we both were in agreement that you can't ever change anyone; instead, you have to change your response to that person. We both laughed because we finished each others' sentence. And that we both talked about how we seemed to know ourselves pretty well. I thought I'd take the time to post a thread about the topic of self-knowledge.  In my younger days, I use to think that psychology was too theoretical, cold and clinical. And a lo...